Fix or through away?
You live in a long-term relationship and have invested in it the most valuable thing you have, time. You have invested so much that you can not even count it, and suddenly you feel that something is wrong. You no longer feel a perfectly tuned tool, but rather a cracked plate. Yes, she has come to you, a crisis in your relationship.
How do you know when you can still fix a cracked plate and when is it better to throw it away?
1. You realize your own value
You realize what you want. By yourself, from the relationship you want or from a partner. You realize your value for yourself and for others. You know about your own uniqueness, even if others try to say something different. Your partner should increase your self-esteem, support it. If it does not, it probably is not the one who we are on the same wave with.
2. You realize the value of the other one
You realize not only their value as a person but also what their personality gives you. Hot it enriches and complements you. You must see additional value, which will make you carry one, in the other one. Do not just look at the weaknesses. Every person has a unique personality and can be a perfect partner, only in the relationship they need the right counterpart. The one who rides on the same wave as you, whatever it is.
3. Respect differences
You know how different you are. You know where your weaknesses and strengths are, which you respect on each other. Everyone grew up in a different environment, got another education, passed a different way of life. You can not expect that you will absolutely be the same, that you will have the same ideas and you agree with each other.
4. Still want to invest (time)
Investing in time, that's the most valuable thing you can give to the other. It's the most valuable investment, so you have to carefully consider it. You need to invest in time to move, communicate, and build relationships. Without time, no relationship can be built.
5. Self-respect - mutual limits
You have both set the boundaries that you do not want to cross. However, you have to realize that you are different, so you should look for each other and not create a gap. The ideal solution is when you meet halfway around. You create a compromise that will benefit both of you and both of you will see that benefit.
Where there is no communication, there's no relationship. Without mutual communication, you can never know what the other needs, what they do not have or what they expect. Without communication, you are two people who look side by side and ahead of each other but not together.